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Don’t run away from who you want to be

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Stop hating and start living. Do it for you.

 

… and I thought I was a loner. I had convinced myself something was wrong with me, I mean there must have been something wrong with me, for those people I hoped to encourage and gave my affection to seemed to get further and further away from me. Not running, simply walking away and then fading into oblivion. Yet I hadn’t done anything wrong to them. You see, you can put all your heart into helping others, trying to do your best to comfort,advice or console them, you can try to honestly be happy for them and rejoice with them, set an example to follow for them… but you may just not get anything in return or it could all just backfire.

I personally started by setting an example for myself because I only got bits and pieces from my own life. I wanted to have someone to look up to so I started looking, hungrily searching and finding some answers to all those questions that needed answering to. Had I completely misplaced my values? Was I to blame for being who I am? Was I a bad person to speak my mind?  Did I really feel or act superior towards those people who were a part of my life? Had I  unwillingly made them uncomfortable with my big ego?

I’m proud to say I nurture values and put loyalty and honesty above all. I fight rage and I fight temptation, so much that nothing really tempts me anymore (except for good food). I’ve won the battles against jealousy and envy easily throughout my life, but it hurts me to say that by setting the example for myself  I feel that to others I have become some sort of control freak regarding my emotions. I now find it hard to relate to people who are constantly looking for my weak spots (I do have many) and thinking my life is all about THEM and not about myself. In a way I’m actually quite selfish so I do things for myself and to myself generally. I certainly don’t trust “them” anymore.  I find it hard to pretend I don’t see resentment in the looks people give me or in their attitude towards me. I don’t think they actually realise or want to feel that way towards me, but I find it hard to believe anyone cares for me when all they’re doing is waiting to see me fail and do the “AHAAA you fail miserably too and that makes me feel great about myself now!” dance.

Let me assure you, I am all human, but failure is not what I’m about … and it’s not what you’re about either.

I don’t believe any of us can ever fail. I wish that you could all see this clearly. If your intentions are good and your conscience is truly clear you can’t fail in life, it is close to impossible. You can’t even make mistakes in life let alone “fail in life” (we make the decisions we make knowingly and whatever just cameupoutoftheblue is not our responsibility – #let’sfaceit). But when the shit hits the fan (and it will cause nobody is perfect) you can hold your head high and carry on, knowing deep down inside you did what you did for the right reasons at the time, and who cares you couldn’t make things work! so what you didn’t get what you deserved, expected or wished for! You’re not a fortune teller, you can’t know these things so don’t beat yourself up for you are your worst enemy.

Don’t be afraid of life and don’t feel ashamed if things don’t go the way you planned. There is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. Life is full of surprises, good and bad. Simply embrace who you are and be your own competition. Fight for yourself, stand up for yourself, be the best friend you’d always hoped to have (chances are you’ll never find that type of friend anyway – all one can do is hope- truestory), so YOU be THAT person!

Stop hating and start living. Be the change you want to see in the world – Gandhi

 

How much has beauty got to do with success or fame?

How much has beauty got to do with success or fame?

meri funny facesYou’d think one might consider it a gift, and easy entry… and yet.

Speaking from personal experience, the little that I have, my good looks have always been noticed at the most unflattering times.

After a concert:

Audience member: wow, congratulations, you’re a good..

Musician: Yeah, I know, she’s hot, isn’t she? O.o

Music contest:

Judge: hey you have a wonderful voice, but that dress!

hmmm, thank you?

I know it’s not modest of me to consider myself pretty, if I deny it I’m a hypocrite, if I admit it I’m arrogant or cocky.. but people keep reminding you of it every second, even when you personally are not thinking about “it”, so there you go, you just can’t get any of this right. Seems like you have to proof your worth twice as hard in everything you do, and add to that the “woman” factor.

Yes, being a woman is hard as it is. Everyone seems obliged to tell you that you look great, oh yeah and sing well too. What happened to sincere, honest recognition of a person’s ability to sing and perform? and all those other qualities that go way further than skin deep?The world is not a beauty contest and I would have definitely not come this far had I NOT been good at what I do.

I speak for all those women out there you have to struggle with superficial, at times inappropriate, comments that diminish who we truly are, by people who think they are paying us a tribute.

What else comes with it?

…envy, distrust, plain hatred, jealousy, competitiveness, back-stabbing and fake smiling…

But don’t worry, you look fabulous anyway!

Who cares for all that other stuff.

(sarcasm)

be inspired, it’s not foolish

dear all,

I’ve been thinking a lot about positives and negatives in one’s life. I have to say it is truly hard to make the choice to be happy.

I know it’s quite absurd but have you ever had the feeling that when you decide to be happy a lot of people stand in your way?  whether it is a healthy habit, like being on diet, or when you take up something new, running, playing a musical instrument,etc. It’s as though the outsider’s guilty conscience would do anything to make you stop since it lacks of discipline itself.

2 years ago I had made a commitment to making my life healthier, feeling good about myself. As I lost 11 kg gradually and started my new life I had a lot of negativity around me. Don’t get me wrong I’ve also inspired many friends to take up running and healthy habits, this was what I loved most about the process. Nevertheless I was forced to listen to anyone’s opinion of what they thought of my new lifestyle. Mind you I hadn’t asked for their opinion.

Needless to say I felt like I was making a mistake, maybe these people were right, maybe I was going overboard with it all, maybe I did look better with more curves… BS (I hope you guys know what that stands for!)

I got it all wrong. I put people’s opinions before my own, I tried to make everyone happy by accepting their party invitations loaded with junk food and beer and ended up feeling insecure about my body again and feeling miserable about other aspects of my life, all this after 2 years of sacrifices that actually left me feeling good!

Believe me this doesn’t just apply to food or weight loss or vanity. When you decide to have positive models and do something useful with your time, being happy with your job, you’ll get some cynic telling you you’re too naive, that instead of managing your anger, fixing your flaws, working on yourself,  you should accept the world as it is, reminding you that there are more problems in the world that you won’t ever be able to fix, and that you’re stupid for caring about yourself because it really doesn’t matter. It makes no difference to anyone how you try to live your life. You’re basically a fool for being an idealist. For pursuing your goals, little or big.

What’s so wrong with being happy? I’ve been reading really great books by the motivational coach Robin Sharma, and I’ve found many truths that have confirmed my vision of what the world should feel like. I’ve decided not to be mediocre to my own eyes, invest in my talents and be brave enough to show my happiness to any cynic. Cause there’s nothing wrong with being in control, shutting out the negativity, making yourself proud of who you are and how you spend your time.

Life is a miracle, there’s too much to learn. I appreciate daily runs, reading, friends, my job, and regardless of any ups or downs, I know for sure that I have the power to overcome it all, because I have disciplined myself to recognise what happiness is to me and I’m not ashamed of being “naive” and inspired by music, art, books, sport, and those people around me who make this world a better place for me. I’m done with negativity and negative people. For good.

WM

Being a motivational coach!

Something really exciting is happening … It’s been a year since I started my new life-style, eating healthy, working out but most importantly running.

I’m proud to say many people have started following my footsteps around me. My sister lost 22kg since I lost 11kg (setting the example), it took some time but eventually she understood that she too could really make it once and for all and never go back to dieting again as this time round it had to be FOR GOOD!

What amazes me is how some young women from my singing school have started looking up to me. They want to train with me and they’re very enthusiastic about all the running going on.

I have to say I’m really honored because so far at least 6 people have started running, eating healthier and one has even stopped smoking since she started jogging!

I’m trying to fit in all these runs in my busy work schedule, I think it’s worth all the time invested in healthy  relationships with people. Most importantly it will help me achieve my goal of running 21km in April!

YEAY

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WM