I’ve been thinking a lot about positives and negatives in one’s life. I have to say it is truly hard to make the choice to be happy.
I know it’s quite absurd but have you ever had the feeling that when you decide to be happy a lot of people stand in your way? whether it is a healthy habit, like being on diet, or when you take up something new, running, playing a musical instrument,etc. It’s as though the outsider’s guilty conscience would do anything to make you stop since it lacks of discipline itself.
2 years ago I had made a commitment to making my life healthier, feeling good about myself. As I lost 11 kg gradually and started my new life I had a lot of negativity around me. Don’t get me wrong I’ve also inspired many friends to take up running and healthy habits, this was what I loved most about the process. Nevertheless I was forced to listen to anyone’s opinion of what they thought of my new lifestyle. Mind you I hadn’t asked for their opinion.
Needless to say I felt like I was making a mistake, maybe these people were right, maybe I was going overboard with it all, maybe I did look better with more curves… BS (I hope you guys know what that stands for!)
I got it all wrong. I put people’s opinions before my own, I tried to make everyone happy by accepting their party invitations loaded with junk food and beer and ended up feeling insecure about my body again and feeling miserable about other aspects of my life, all this after 2 years of sacrifices that actually left me feeling good!
Believe me this doesn’t just apply to food or weight loss or vanity. When you decide to have positive models and do something useful with your time, being happy with your job, you’ll get some cynic telling you you’re too naive, that instead of managing your anger, fixing your flaws, working on yourself, you should accept the world as it is, reminding you that there are more problems in the world that you won’t ever be able to fix, and that you’re stupid for caring about yourself because it really doesn’t matter. It makes no difference to anyone how you try to live your life. You’re basically a fool for being an idealist. For pursuing your goals, little or big.
What’s so wrong with being happy? I’ve been reading really great books by the motivational coach Robin Sharma, and I’ve found many truths that have confirmed my vision of what the world should feel like. I’ve decided not to be mediocre to my own eyes, invest in my talents and be brave enough to show my happiness to any cynic. Cause there’s nothing wrong with being in control, shutting out the negativity, making yourself proud of who you are and how you spend your time.
Life is a miracle, there’s too much to learn. I appreciate daily runs, reading, friends, my job, and regardless of any ups or downs, I know for sure that I have the power to overcome it all, because I have disciplined myself to recognise what happiness is to me and I’m not ashamed of being “naive” and inspired by music, art, books, sport, and those people around me who make this world a better place for me. I’m done with negativity and negative people. For good.